‘Keep the pen moving,’ suggests Fi. ‘Think about what you want to gain from the session.’
Organisers Fi and Alex welcome us to a trial for a confidence course they are planning to run. It’s Friday, 27th Feb. This is the warmup exercise.
Confidence is a lifelong battle. It’s something I’m never not working on. I’ve been to a lot of confidence-related events. I’m hoping to learn something new, to help other people and challenge myself. Confidence affects people in different ways. Are people confident in work? In gym and sports? In relationships? When speaking 1-1 or in front of an audience? It can vary. People can have an abundance in one way but none in another. From my years of researching these things, my conclusion is that confidence comes from understanding that no matter what happens, I’ll be okay.
Confidence course in Hinterland Manchester
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We discussed each of these points.
SAY NO
Learn to tolerate the discomfort of rejecting. Save time for rest and creativity.
SAY YES
Doing so before feeling really ready is liberating. You don’t have to know the end goal. Fi reads out the poem I Will Not Die an Unlived Life, by Dawna Markova.
TO SHINE
This can look like imposter syndrome when you take on a bigger challenge that draws attention. There’s space for all of us to shine. Fi asks, where do I make myself smaller than I need to?
BE DIFFERENT
It takes confidence to be different. What part of me have I tried to avoid that may actually be a strength?
DO NOTHING
What does it mean to be worthy, but not productive? When have I felt uncomfortable in my own inaction? Alex takes over here and explains that some words have immediate impact. For an example:
CONFIDENCE.
The source of true confidence, he claims, is to speak, be honest, and be authentic. Own your own personal power. Confidence, Alex explains, comes from the Latin confideri, meaning ‘with full trust.’ The Indo-European original word before it is Fideri, meaning ‘persuading,’ and from the Latin we also get related words like ‘conning’ and ‘con artists.’ It’s the belief, he tells us, ‘in veracity or truth of another.’ He encourages us to stand with confidence with your whole being.
Interesting session. There is always, and I hate to say it, the question of who’s authority are they telling us this? Are they qualified psychotherapists? How much trust can we put into this? Would the NHS agree with their sessions?
Now to put it into practice…
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